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To answer your Question 1, one needs to know what you mean by the optimal rate.
However, as the following answer to your Question 2 shows, the convergence rate is essentially unique, up to the sign and rescaling, and so, it is hardly meaningful to talk about the optimal rate. Indeed, we have
Proposition. Suppose that $(T_n)$ is a sequence of random variables (r.v.'s) and $(\ell_n)$ and $(\ell'_n)$ are sequences of real numbers such that
\begin{equation}
\ell_n T_n\eD V\quad\text{and}\quad\ell'_n T_n\eD V'
\end{equation}
for some non-degenerate r.v.'s $V$ and $V'$, where $\eD$ denotes the convergence in distribution. Then for
\begin{equation}
r_n:=\frac{\ell'_n}{\ell_n}
\end{equation}
we have $|r_n|\to c$ for some nonzero real $c$. If, moreover, (the distribution of) $V$ is not symmetric, then $r_n\to c$ for some nonzero real $c$.
Proof. Suppose that $r_n\not\to c$ for any nonzero real $c$. Then (passing to subsequences if needed), we see that without loss of generality (wlog) one of the following three cases must obtain.
Case 1: $r_n\to0$. Then $\ell'_n T_n=r_n(\ell_n T_n)\eD0V=0$, which contradicts the conditions that $\ell'_n T_n\eD V'$ and $V'$ is non-degenerate.
Case 2: $|r_n|\to\infty$. This reduces to Case 1 by switching the roles of $\ell_n$ and $V$ with those of $\ell'_n$ and $V'$.
Case 3: $r_{m_k}\to r$ and $r_{n_k}\to s$, where $r$ and $s$ are distinct nonzero real numbers and $(m_k)$ and $(n_k)$ are strictly increasing sequences of natural numbers. Then
$$\ell'_{m_k} T_{m_k}=r_{m_k}(\ell_{m_k} T_{m_k})\eD rV=:W$$
and similarly
$$\ell'_{n_k} T_{n_k}\eD sV=\ga W,$$
where $\ga:=s/r$. In view of the condition $\ell'_n T_n\eD V'$, we have
$$W\D\ga W,$$
where $\D$ means the equality in distribution. Wlog $|\ga|\le1$ and hence one of the following two subcases of Case 3 must obtain.
Subcase 3.1: $|\ga|=1$. Then
$\ga=-1$, because $\ga=s/r$ and $r$ and $s$ are distinct. So, in this subcase $W\D-W$, that is, $W$ is symmetric and hence $V$ is so.
Subcase 3.2: $|\ga|<1$. Then $W\D\ga W\D\ga^2 W\D\dots\D\ga^n W\eD0$, so that $W\D0$ and hence $V\D0$, a contradiction.
Thus, one may have $r_n\not\to c$ for any nonzero real $c$ only if $V$ is symmetric.
Similarly, by applying the absolute value function to $\ell_n$, $\ell'_n$, $r_n$, $T_n$, $V$, and $V'$, it is shown that $|r_n|\to c$ for some nonzero real $c$ in all cases without exceptions. (In this latter consideration, there will be no analogue of the exceptional Subcase~3.1.) The proposition is now proved. $\Box$
