Both Abraham-Marsden and Da Silva seem to imply that given a symplectomorphism $g:T^\ast X\to T^\ast X$ which preserves the tautological $1$-form $\alpha$, it must be that $g$ is fibre preserving.

In fact, this is addressed in the question Cotangent bundle lift theorem.

The answer given to this question stresses very clearly that g must preserve fibres to have any chance of being a lift, even if it preserves the canonical 1-form.

I would really like to see a counterexample to this. That is, a symplectomorphism which preserves the canonical $1$-form but is not the lift of a diffeomorphism.

I have struggled with trying to prove both Abraham-Marsden and Da Silva's claim. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

I can show the following:

If $V$ is the symplectic dual of $\alpha$ (i.e. $\omega(V,\cdot)=\alpha$), then $g_\ast V=V$, or equivalently $g\circ\theta_t=\theta_t\circ g$ where $\theta_t$ is the flow of $V$. Also I can show that $\theta_t$ is fibre preserving (i.e. $\theta_t(T_p^\ast X)=T_p^\ast X)$. This last fact follows from actually computing $\theta_t$ which is $\theta_t(p,\xi_p)=(p,e^t\xi_p)$.