Given a random variable $X$ with bounded moments such that $E[X] = 0, E[X^2] = 1$, let $F_n$ denote the distribution $\sum\limits_{i=1}^d\frac{X_i}{\sqrt{n}}$ where each $X_i$ is an independent copy of $X$. It is known that as $n \to \infty$, $F_n$ converges in distribution to a standard Gaussian.
The Berry-Esseen inequality then gives us a quantitative estimate for the rate of convergence. If $\Phi$ denotes the standard Gaussian distribution we have:: $$\sup|F_n - \Phi| \leq C \frac{1}{\sqrt{n}} $$
Where (throught the discussion) $C$ is a positive constant depending on the moments of $X$.
We may also look at a stronger type of convergence. Namely, convergence in total variation (in the $L_1$ norm). Clearly, without further demands from $X$, nothing can be expected. However, some sufficient conditions can be found. For example, when $X$ satisfies a Poincare type inequality or when $X$ has a finite Kullback-Leibler divergence from $\Phi$. In both those cases one may use the Entropic Central Limit Theorem (as stated here, http://arxiv.org/pdf/1105.4119v2.pdf, for example) to give a similar bound on the total variation distance. $$||F_n - \Phi||_{\mathrm{TV}} \leq C \frac{1}{\sqrt{n}}$$.
So, when all $X_i$ are identically distributed and satisfy some simple condition, convergence in Total Variation and convergence in distribution happen together at the same rate.
Now, let us consider the non-i.i.d case. Let $A_n = \{a_i\}_{i=1}^n$ and denote by $F_{A,n}$ the distribution of $\sum a_i X_i$, where again all $X_i$ are independent copies of $X$.
In this case, the Berry-Esseen inequality gives the following bound: $$\sup|F_{A,n} - \Phi| \leq C \frac{\left(\sum a_i^3\right)}{\left(\sum a_i^2\right)^{(3/2)}}$$
Looking at the Total Variation though, bounding the Kullback-Liebler divergence of $X$ from standard normal no longer makes sense, since the divergence of $a_iX_i$ can grow as a function of $a_i$.
The known bound of the Entropic CLT, given that $X$ satisfies a Poincare inequality (see http://www.tau.ac.il/~shiri/ptrf/clt.pdf) when joined with Pinsker's inequality then gives: $$||F_{A,n} - \Phi||_{\mathrm{TV}} \leq C\frac{\sqrt{\sum a_i^4}}{\sum a_i^2}$$ Unlike in the i.i.d case this gives a real difference between Total Variation distance and convergence in distribution.
I am not aware whether the Entropic CLT is tight. But, this suggests the existence of a nice enough random variable $X$ (satisfying Poincare inequality) and a set of coefficients $A$, such that $\sum a_iX_i$ convergence in distribution to a Gaussian in rate $O(\frac{1}{\sqrt{n}})$, while converging in Total Variation in a much slower rate (Consider for example the case where $a_i \sim \frac{1}{i^{(1/3)}}$) In particular, there is some event on the real line, which cannot be a finite union of intervals, on which the two distributions differ by a substantial amount.
My question is then:
Is there a natural example of such a random variable?
If so, is there a natural description to the event on which the distributions differ?
