I am trying to understand Example 7.5/9 from the book "Neron models". There one has a discrete valuation ring $R'$ that is the localization of $\mathbb{Z}[\zeta_p]$ at $p$, so that the absolute ramification index of $R'$ is $p - 1$. One knows that there is a homomorphism $u'\colon E'\rightarrow F'$ of abelian $R'$-schemes such that its generic fiber $u'_K$ is a closed immersion but that $u'$ itself is not a monomorphism (so $u'$ is quite pathological, e.g., it is not flat).
The claim is that in the situation above the induced map $\mathrm{Lie}(u')\colon \mathrm{Lie}(E') \rightarrow \mathrm{Lie}(F')$ on Lie algebras (which are finite free $R'$-modules) is not an inclusion of a direct summand. My question is: how does one see this?
I've tried passing to the special fiber and then checking that the induced map on Lie algebras is not injective but I don't know how to rule out the possibility that the kernel of the special fiber of $u'$ is etale.