The answer to the first question is that the Ricci tensor defines a (1,1) form (called the Ricci form) and this is the curvature of the connection on $K_M$ induced by the Levi-Civita connection on $T M$. So if the manifold is Ricci-flat, $K_M$ is flat and hence if $M$ is simply-connected it is trivial. Flatness says the restricted holonomy group acts trivially, simply-connectedness says the holonomy group coincides with the restricted holonomy group.
The answer to the second question is that the holonomy representation on $K_M$ is the determinant of the holonomy representation on the holomorphic tangent bundle $T^{(1,0)}M$. Hence if $K_M$ is trivial, the determinant representation is trivial: the holonomy around any loop has determinant $1$. Since the manifold is Kähler, the holonomy representation is in $U(n) \subset SO(2n)$, whence the unit determinant condition says it is actually in $SU(n) \subset SO(2n)$.
This ought to be explained in Besse or in Joyce, to mention but two books. I don't have them handy, since I'm travelling, so cannot be more precise as to where in the books to find them.
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I found a copy of Besse's Einstein Manifolds. You may wish to look at Chapter 2F in that book for the answer to the first question and in Chapter 10 (especially 10.28-10.30) for the answer to the second question.