Added: What can we expect from the Euclidean MST
After mulling over this question for a few days, I think it's inconsistent with the stated facts stated that the diameter of the Euclidean MST is $\Theta(\sqrt n)$. Here's why.
Let's first interpret the theorem cited in the question, that the diameter of the Delaunay triangulation for $P$ has expected diameter $\Theta(\sqrt n)$. For each $n$, the Delaunay triangualations for $P$ define a probability measure on the space of metrics on $n$-element subsets of the unit square. We can interpolate this metric to a metric on the unit square by making each triangle of the Delaunay triangulation an equilateral triangle, and rescale it by $1/\sqrt n$ to get a measure on the space of metrics on the square. As $n$ goes to infinity, these metrics have uniformly bounded $\epsilon$ complexity (=minimum number of balls of size $\epsilon$ needed to cover). The set of metrics of $\epsilon$-complexity bounded by some fixed function of $\epsilon$ is compact, in the Gromov-Hausdorff topology, so the space of probability measures on these metric spaces is compact in the weak topology, so there exists at least a subseqeunce of $n$ such that the scaled Delaunay metrics converge to a measure on metric spaces.
The metric spaces are a.s. Lipschitz equivalent to the standard metric on the unit square, using the theorem about diameter. These metrics are path-metric spaces. The shortest paths are rectifiable arcs in the Euclidean sense as well as in the particular metric, since the two metrics are Lipschitz equivalent. A rectifiable arc in the plane has a tangent line almost everywhere, so there are rescaled limits where it looks like a straight line.
Proposition: The rescaled Delaunay metrics converge a.s. to a constant multiple of the Euclidean metric in the plane.
That the metric of the plane is the actual limit, not just a limit point, follows from considerations parallel to the fact that a rescaled limit of a Lipschitz function is a.s. linear. If there were any signficant probability of signficant deviation at any stage, these would accumulate and prevent the large-scale map from being Lipshcitz.
Now consider the MST. The Euclidean MST for a Delaunay triangulation is a metric tree. Suppose the trees have probable diameter is $\Theta(\sqrt n)$. For each pair of points $x$ and $y$ in the unit square and for each $P$, let $x_P$ be the point of $P$ closest to the $x$, let $y_P$ be closest to $y$, and let $\gamma_P$ be the path in the MST connecting $x_P$ to $y_P$, parametrized by $1/\sqrt(n)$ times the combinatorial Delaunay distance. In the limit, the measure on $P$'s would converge to a probaility measure on rectifiable paths from $x$ to $y$. But more than that, we would get a measurable map from the square cross the square that takes each pair of points to a rectifiable path between them, with arclength less than some constant times their distance.
This is not topologically compatible with the tree-like condition: near the boundary between two large branches of a tree, the tree distance between points on one branch to points on the other branch is a large multiple of the distance in the plane.
To test my understanding, I ran simulations (using Mathematica's Computational Geometry package and Combinatorica package). Here are two Euclidean MST's, the first with 1500 random points in the unit square, the second with 10,000. You can plainly see that paths connecting pairs of vertices are not converging to rectifiable, Lipschitz paths.
alt text http://dl.dropbox.com/u/5390048/MinimalSpanningTree1500.jpg
alt text http://dl.dropbox.com/u/5390048/MinimalSpanningTree10000.jpg
The actual asymptotic behavior of diameter seems intricately tied with percolation, a subject that I do not understand very well. That is: you can think of building up the MST by successively adding edges of length $t$ if they join points which are not already connected. This gives an increasing union of equivalence relations on elements of $P$, consisting of clumps that can be connected by steps not greater than $t$. One would expect that at for a critical length $t$, large-scale clusters are expected. Paths between points in such a cluster must stay in the cluster. The geometry of the increasing clusters should enable one to estimate the Hausdorff dimension of tree geodesics, which should give the exponent of growth for the diameter of the Euclidean MST.
The following is an earlier answer, which essentially shows that Delaunay "arc length" converges to a multiple of Euclidean arc length. Missing point: how much might larger detours around radars shorten the paths?
Geometry of the Delaunay triangulation.
Let's look at this problem on the surface of a sphere, instead of the unit square. The Delaunay triangulation of a set $P$ on the sphere is invariant under Moebius transformations (easy to verify by the definition in terms of circles), and it is equivalent to the triangulation of the convex hull of $P$. A set in the plane can be transformed to the sphere by stereographic projection. It's Dealaunay triangulation is equivalent to a subset of the polyhedron, namely the part on the far side from the center of projection. The problems, for the uniform distribution on the square and the uniform distribution on $S^2$, are equivalent, but the spherical setting has more symmetry.
In the projective ball model of hyperbolic space, the convex hull inherits a metric as a hyperbolic surface of finite area. I want to describe a related metric. Imagine there is a radar installation at each point of $P$, and that a smuggler wants to fly a small plane below the horizon of any radar. They need to slow down when they're flying lower, at a speed proportional to the distance to $P$, so the metric will be 1/minimum distance to $P$ times spherical arc length. Near an element of $P$, this metric is asymptotically that of a cylinder of circumference $2 \pi$, but slightly smaller near where it is attached because we're rescaling the spherical metric, rather than the Euclidean metric.
Define a "thick" part of $S^2 \setminus P$ to be the set $Q$ obtained by removing a disk around each element of $P$ whose radius is 1/3 the distance to its nearest neighbor.
[Inessential mathematical sidenote: this metric is comparable to the Poincaré metric in Q, except in situations where $P$ is confined to a tiny disk on the sphere. The definition could be modified for that situation, but it's a distraction. The smuggling metric is also comparable to the hyperbolic metric on the image of $Q$ projected to the nearest point in the convex hull of $P$.]
Claim: the smuggling diameter is comparable to the diameter of the Delaunay triangulation.
Proof of Claim: The boundary circles of $Q$ all have comparable circumference in the smuggling metric, slightly less than $2 \pi$. The Delaunay triangles all have diameter bounded above and below in the smuggling metric. This gives an easy way to transform a path in the 1-skeleton of the Delaunay triangulation to a path in $Q$ without increasing length more than a bounded factor. Conversely, for a path in $Q$, the rate of near-encounters with elements of $P$ per smuggling distance is bounded. Therefore, you can do a simplicial approximation, pushing the path to the 1-skeleton with number of edges less than a bounded multiple of its length.
Let's now consider a variation of the problem: A smuggler wants to go between point $X$ on the sphere and point $Y$ on the sphere, in the presence of $N$ uniformly randomly distributed radar installations. The smuggler is conservative, and decides to never exceed spherical speed $N^{-.5}$. This will be less than speed 1 in the smuggling metric except when there is a radar within distance $N^{-.5}$. The density of the set of points is $4 \pi / N$ and the strip has area about $d(X,Y) * 2 N^{-.5}$, so the expected number of radars in the strip is $\Theta(\sqrt N)$. The distribution (Poisson) has standard deviation proportional to square root of expectation, so for moderately large $N$ it is extremely unlikely that there will be more than twice the expected number within the strip: enough that even that the probability that the $\sup$ number over all $X$ and $Y$ tends rapidly to 0 with $N$.
For each radar dish that is within the strip, the smuggler merely takes a detour around the corresponding boundary circle of $Q$, adding only a constant amount of time to the trip. This gives a path in the smuggling metric of $S^2 \setminus P$ with length $\Theta(\sqrt N)$. We want to know the length of a path in $Q$. This is now easy, since there is a distance-decreasing retraction from $S^2 \setminus P \rightarrow Q$: each cylinder can be mapped to its boundary without increasing lengths.
Therefore, the expected maximum diameter of the Delaunay triangulation is $O(\sqrt N)$
This post should really have pictures ... maybe later, or maybe someone else can supply them.