This answer just suggests a couple of directions that you can continue searching, rather than being definitive.
Brouwer, Cohen and Neumaier use the term edge regular for the property that every pair of adjacent vertices have the same number of common neighbours (in other words, like strongly regular but dropping the condition on non-adjacent vertices). So your property is then edge regular with $\lambda = 1$. Of course any graph that is actually strongly regular with $\lambda = 1$ will do the trick, hence the Brouwer-Haemers graph and the Paley graph on 9 vertices that you already found. There are other SRGs with $\lambda=1$. There are various papers on edge-regular graphs of different types, but I don't know offhand if $\lambda=1$ has been tackled.
On another tack, a graph is called locally $X$ if every neighbourhood is isomorphic to $X$, and so you are looking for graphs that are locally $rK_2$. Again there is lots of work on graphs that are locally this, locally that and locally the other, but I don't know offhand for $X =rK_2$.
A third direction in which you may search is to observe that your condition is equivalent to every edge being in a unique triangle (+ regularity). This sounds like a condition that somebody should have studied, but at the risk of sounding like a broken record, I don't know offhand of any such results.
However I think that there is definitely scope there for some interesting work.