Let me give this a try:

It seems you are really asking about whether there are any outer derivations of $Lie(G')$ in $Lie(G)$. [EDIT] This does not, unfortunately amount to exactly the question of whether outer derivations exist, because they may not be realised inside the normaliser of $Lie(G')$ in $Lie(G)$ (a good example is to take $G'$ is a torus; then the normaliser in $\mathfrak{gl}(Lie(G'))$ is itself as $G'$ is then a maximal torus of $GL(Lie(G'))$). Of course there are no outer derivations in characteristic $0$ for the Lie algebras of semisimple groups. In positive characteristic the situation is rather different. For classical simple Lie algebras (i.e. ones coming from algebraic groups---there are plenty more simple Lie algebras in char $p$ like the Witt algebras $W(n;\underline{m})$), there are no outer derivations in very good characteristic because the Killing form is non-degenerate. (You could read Seligman Modular Lie Algebras, p112.) So if you can reduce to this case then I suppose you're alright. 

Now the Killing form is degenerate for $\mathfrak{psl}_{lp^r}$ (or indeed $\mathfrak{sl}_{lp^r}$) but you are ruling out these on the basis you are looking at the Lie algebra of an adjoint group and verily $\mathfrak{pgl}_{lp^r}$ has no outer derivations. However! There will possibly be an issue for $G_2$ in characteristic $2$ since the Lie algebra is isomorphic (qua Lie algebra) to $\mathfrak{psl}_4$ (amazing but true--e.g. count dimensions). Then this will have extra derivations and I would think this may give rise to a counterexample. Possibly also $F_4$ in characteristic $3$, $E_8$ in characteristic $5$, $\dots$ though I would take a small bet in favour of there are none except for $G_2$ in exceptional type. I would not be surprised to learn that there is a paper where someone has established exactly the outer derivations in all characteristics and for all isogeny types, but unfortunately I can't point you to one.