Malheureusement, this is not true, not even for the weak order. This can be seen for example when $G = GL(4)$ and $K = GL(2) \times GL(2)$. Then $K \backslash G / B$ is parameterized by involutions with signs attached to fixed points and the map $\varphi$ simply forgets the markings on the fixed points.
For example, the closed orbit associated to $(1^+)(2^-)(3^-)(4^+)$ lies below both $(14)(2^-)(3^+)$ and $(14)(2^+)(3^-)$. Figures with weak order for a plethora of examples of symmetric subgroups appear in a preprint by Ben Weyser.