I think that this is one of these things that looks plausible in small examples but is false. For example, this would imply that the coefficients of R polynomials are alternating in $q$. This is implied by another conjecture called the Gabber-Joseph conjecture (roughly: coefficients of R-poynomials give dimensions of Ext groups between Verma modules), which is false. See "A counterexample to the Gabber-Joseph conjecture" by Brian Boe.