It is worth noting some very interesting cases when the answer is yes. An amazing result by Miyata states that if $R$ is Noetherian and commutative, $M,N$ are finitely generated and $E \cong M\oplus N$, any exact sequence $ 0 \to M \to E \to N \to 0$ must split!
This holds true slightly more generally, when $R$ is (not necessarity commutative) module-finite over a Noetherian commutative ring. Also, the statement holds for finitely generated pro-finite groups, see Goldstein-Guralnick, J. Group Theory 9 (2006), 317–322.