Let $d_e$ be the usual metric on $\mathbb{R}^2$ and $S = \{(\frac1n,0) : n \operatorname{is} \operatorname{a} \operatorname{positive} \operatorname{integer}\}$. Let $(X,d)$ be $\mathbb{R}^2-S$ with the metric inherited from $(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)$.
Clearly, $P_{(X,d)}(x,R,r)\leq P_{(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)}(x,R,r)$ and $(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)$ is packing-homogeneous. Consider a ball $B$ in $(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)$ with center $C$, and disjoint balls of radius $r$ with centers $\{c_i : i\in I\}$ such that $\{c_i : i\in I\} \subseteq B_0$. Bounded subsets of $(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)$ are totally bounded, so $|\{c_i : i\in I\}| < \infty$. Define $R(\theta)$ as the rotation of $(\mathbb{R},d_e)$ by $\theta$ radians about $C$, clearly these are all isometries which fixe $C$ and $B$ is invariant under. Since the points in $S$ are colinear, $|\{s\in S : d_e(C,c_i) = d_e(C,s)\}| \leq 2$, so if $C$ is not a member of $S$, then $|\{\theta\in (-\pi,\pi] : (r(\theta))(c_i)\in S\}| \leq 2$. This gives us $|\{\theta\in (-\pi,\pi] : (\exists i\in I)((r(\theta))(c_i)\in S)\}| = |\displaystyle\bigcup_{i\in I} \{\theta\in (-\pi,\pi] : (r(\theta))(c_i)\in S\}| \leq |I|\cdot 2 < \infty\cdot 2 = \infty \leq |(-\pi,\pi]|$, so there exists $\theta\in (-\pi,\pi]$ such that $\neg (\exists i\in I)((r(\theta))(c_i)\in S)$. Let $\phi$ be such a $\theta$. Then $(\forall i\in I)((r(\phi))(c_i)\not\in S). This shows that if $C$ is not a member of $S$, then there is a packing in $B$ which does not use any points of $S$, so $P_{(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)}\leq P_{(X,d)}(x,R,r)$. Let $x,y$ be members of $X$, then $P_{(X,d)}(x,R,r)\leq P_{(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)}(x,R,r) = P_{(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)}(y,R,r) \leq P_{(X,d)}(y,R,r)\leq P_{(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)}(y,R,r) = P_{(\mathbb{R}^2,d_e)}(x,R,r)\leq $P_{(X,d)}(x,R,r), which shows that the packing function on $(X,d)$ is independent of basepoint. Therefore $(X,d)$ is packing-homogeneous.
$(X,d)$ is not locally simply connected near $(0,0)$, but it is locally simply connected near $(0,1)$, so $(X,d)$ is not even topologically homogeneous. (\mathbb{R}^2,d_e) is connected and $S$ is nowhere dense in it, so $(X,d)$ is also connected. Therefore $(X,d)$ is a connected packing-homogeneous space which is not homogeneous. QED
Demanding completeness might be enough. It would certainly stop my idea.