This doesn't hold for diagonal matrices $A$ in general, unfortunately. Consider $$A=\begin{bmatrix} 1 & & \\ & 2 & \\ & & 3 \end{bmatrix}$$ and $$U = \begin{bmatrix} & & 1 \\1 & & \\ & 1& \end{bmatrix}$$ Then $$UAU^\mathrm{t}=\begin{bmatrix} 3 & & \\ & 1 & \\ & & 2 \\ \end{bmatrix} \neq A$$ If $UAU^\mathrm{t}=A$, then $UA=AU$; so $A$ commutes with all orthogonal matrices and must be a multiple of the identity matrix. To see this more clearly, suppose $v$ is an eigenvector of $A$ with eigenvalue $\lambda$. Then for all $u\in\mathbb{R}^3$ there is an orthogonal matrix $U$ such that $Uv=u$ (and thus $U^\mathrm{t}u=v$), and $$Au=UAU^\mathrm{t}u=UAv=\lambda Uv=\lambda u,$$ so every vector is an eigenvector of $A$ with eigenvalue $\lambda$. Thus $A=\lambda I$.