The existence of two commuting nilpotent matrices of specified Jordan types depends on the characteristic and size of the field. This was first shown in my joint paper with John Britnell, Types and classes of commuting matrices, J. Lond. Math. Soc. 83 (2011) 470–492.
Specifically, Proposition 4.7 states that there are matrices
of Jordan types $(n,n)$ and $(n+1,n-1)$ that commute over $\mathbb{F}_{p^r}$ if and only if $n$ is not divisible by $p(p^{2r}-1)/e$, where
$$e = \begin{cases} 1 & \text{if $p=2$} \\ 2 & \text{otherwise.} \end{cases}$$
The smallest example of this type is that there are matrices of Jordan types $(6,6)$ and $(7,5)$ that commute with entries in $\mathbb{F}_{4}$, $\mathbb{F}_8$, and so on, but no such matrices with entries in $\mathbb{F}_2$.
Section 4.4 of the paper gives some further field-dependent results of this type, including a classification of all commuting Jordan types labelled by partitions with at most two parts.