Given a finite group $G$, let $\{(1,1),(m_1,n_1),\ldots,(m_r,n_r)\}$ be the list of pairs $(m,n)$ in which $m$ is the order of some element, and $n$ is the number of elements with this order. The order of $G$ is thus $1+n_1+\cdots+n_r$, and the pair $(1,1)$ accounts for the neutral element.
Let $G,G'$ be two finite groups, with the same list. Is it true or not (I bet not) that $G$ and $G'$ are isomorphic ? If not, please provide a counter-exemple.
Edit. Nick's answer gives the correct terminology, of conformal groups. Ben's answer speaks of the refined notion of almost conjugate subgroups. Is there any other related notion ?