I am afraid that it is quite possible that the rank of any diagonal perturbation of a real symmetric $n\times n$-matrix $A$ with non-zero entries is always at least $n-2$. That is, $r(n)\geqslant n-2$, you say that also $r(n)\leqslant n-2$, thus $r(n)=n-2$.
Moreover, it may happen that the submatrix formed by the columns $3,4,\ldots,n$ and rows $1,2,\ldots,n-2$ is always non-degenerated. Namely, take
$$
A_{ij}=\begin{cases}2,&\text{if}\quad |j-i|\geqslant 2 \,\,\text{and}\,\, \min(i,j)\geqslant 2\\
1,& \text{otherwise}\end{cases}
$$
Say, it is how it looks for $n=6$:
$$\pmatrix{1&1&1&1&1&1\\ 1&1&1&2&2&2\\ 1&1&1&1&2&2\\ 1&2&1&1&1&2\\
1&2&2&1&1&1\\
1&2&2&2&1&1}.$$
The above claim follows by subtracting the $(n-1)$-st column from the $n$-th, then $(n-2)$-nd column from the $(n-1)$-st etc.