I have formally studied functional analysis, both as university courses, and by myself, but this is one area of mathematics I find so huge and complicated, I have a hard time properly getting into it.
With that said, I am mainly interested only in a specific area of FA, and that is rigorous spectral theory on Hilbert spaces, and Banach/$C^*$ algebras. Essentially, math needed to make quantum mechanics rigorous. I know there are some books specifically written about QM from a mathematician's point-of-view but I am purely interested in the background math for its own sake.
I would like to request textbook recommendations on this area with the following points in mind:
The textbook should be fairly didactic. Think Lee instead of Kobayashi & Nomizu, to use famous differential geometry texts as an analogy.
The textbook should contain a brush-up of the necessary functional analysis background. I specifically would like this to be sketch-y in the sense that one of my main problems about FA is that it is so huuuuuge. If detailed exposition is given, I get lost in the details. All I want is an assessment of basic/important theorems, like, I dunno, closed graph theorem etc.
Hopefully the textbook should be light/forgiving on measure theory. I know it is needed for the spectral theorem, but it really should contain a brush-up, or at least useful references.
I'd like spectral theory covered on Hilbert spaces and $C^*$ algebras in great detail. It should have stuff on unbounded operators too, since most interesting operators in QM are unbounded operators.
It is not necessary at all, but I'm interested in spectral theory on Banach-spaces too. Probably not all the way, since I seem to remember that's very complicated, but just some outlook and basics. This is a very minor point though.
Any recommendations much appreciated.