I'm writing some notes to myself on algebraic geometry and I'm trying to get the most conceptual definitions. Having arrived at formally étale morphisms, I am pretty desperate.
Here is a list of definitions for an arrow $f$ to be étale.
- SDG I - Kock's SDG book, section I.17, and Kostecki's notes, definition 8.10, "specialized" to our case (take the small object to be just $D=\operatorname{Spec}_RR[\epsilon]$), ask for the square below to be a pullback $$\require{AMScd} \begin{CD} TM @>{df}>> TN\\ @V{\pi}VV @VV{\pi^\prime}V\\ M @>>{f}> N \end{CD}$$ Geometrically, this seems like the most intuitive - identifying the tangent bundle of $M$ with the tangents of $N$ with basepoints in the image of $f$. By pullback pasting this implies also $df:T_xX\cong T_{f(x)}Y$.
- SDG II - Rephrasing the pullback as a strong left lifting property, $f:M\rightarrow N$ is étale if it has the unique right lifting property w.r.t to the point $0:\mathsf{1}\rightarrow D$: $$\array{ \mathsf{1} &\longrightarrow& M \\ \downarrow &\nearrow& \downarrow \\ D &\longrightarrow& N }$$ This doesn't look intuitive to me, but whatever if it's formally equivalent to 1.
- Algebraic Geometry I - a morphism of affine schemes $f:\operatorname{Spec}B\rightarrow\operatorname{Spec}A$ is étale if it has the unique right lifting property against infinitesimal extensions, i.e (opposites of) regular epimorphisms $\hat R\twoheadrightarrow R$ with nilpotent kernel: $$\array{ \operatorname{Spec}R &\longrightarrow& \operatorname{Spec}B \\ \downarrow &\nearrow& \downarrow \\ \operatorname{Spec}\hat R &\longrightarrow& \operatorname{Spec}A }$$ This definition seems conceptual, but I don't really understand why it should be related to the much more intuitive notion of local diffeomorphism. Why should local diffeomorphisms "extend to infinitesimal neighborhoods"?
Are definitions 1 and 3 equivalent or related in some useful setting? How to move between them?
Added. If we do not specialize 1 to second-order infinitesimals and instead take the definition asking the square below to be a pullback for generalized tangent space ($W$ is a Weil algebra), are 1 and 3 equivalent? $$\require{AMScd} \begin{CD} M^{D(W)} @>>> N^{D(W)}\\ @VVV @VVV\\ M @>>{f}> N \end{CD}$$