A $(n+1)$-topological quantum field theory $\mathcal{T}$ is a rigid symmetric monoidal functor from the category $(n+1)$-Cob of $n$-manifolds and $(n+1)$-cobordisms to FdVect. My question is about the symmetric monoidal structure of $(n+1)$-Cob and how it plays well with functoriality:
We consider our manifolds abstractly (as opposed to being embedded in some ambient space). The monoidal structure in $(n+1)$-Cob is given by disjoint union, thus $$M\otimes N = M \sqcup N$$ for manifolds $M,N$, and likewise for cobordisms. But since our manifolds are just abstract, surely this is exactly the same object as $$N\otimes M=N\sqcup M.$$ But when we pass to FdVect our functor gives $$ \mathcal{T}(M\otimes N)=\mathcal{T}M \otimes \mathcal{T}N $$ while $$ \mathcal{T}(N\otimes M) = \mathcal{T}N \otimes \mathcal{T}M $$ which are certainly isomorphic but distinct objects.
So clearly something is broken in my understanding of this, but what? Do we somehow distinguish between $M\otimes N$ and $N\otimes M$ in $(n+1)$-Cob? If so, how, given that these are just abstract manifolds?