In fact the following is true:
Theorem. If $u\in BV(\mathbb{R}^N)$, then for almost all $x\in\mathbb{R}^n$: $$
\frac{1}{|B_r(0)|}\int_{B_r(0)}\left|\frac{u(x+z)-u(x)-[Du(x)]_{ac}z}{r}\right|^{\frac{N}{N-1}}\,
dz\to 0 \quad \text{as $r\to 0$.} $$
Here $[Du(x)]_{ac}$ is the density of the absolutely continuous part of the distributional derivative $Du$ which, by the definition of $BV$ is a Radon measure.
In fact the above convergence holds for all $x$ such that:
- $x$ is a Lebesgue point of $u$,
- Lebesgue point of $Du$,
- $$\lim_{r\to 0}\frac{[Du]_s(B(x,r))}{r^n}=0$$
where $[Du]_s$ is the singular part of $Du$.
For other points you need not have concergence no matter what linear operator $A$ you take.
Moreover,
$[Du]_{ac}$ equals almost everywhere to the approximate derivative of $u$ at all points at which the above convergence to zero holds.
The above results is proven in Evans and Gariepy, Measure theory and fine properties of functions., Theorems 1 and 4 in Chapter 6.