I will mostly answer spin's approach and question here, but it is rather long to write as a comment only. I am not sure if it will answer the original OP's question, but it does seem like a good step.
Given a positive root $\alpha$, we associate to it, we associate to it (following spin's comment) a symmetric bilinear form $\varphi_\alpha$ on $\mathfrak{h}$, defined by:
$\varphi_\alpha(h,h') = \alpha(h)\alpha(h')$
for all $h,h'\in \mathfrak{h}$.
We claim that the set $\{\varphi_\alpha; \alpha \text{ is a positive root}\}$ spans $\operatorname{Sym}^2(\mathfrak{h})$ for simple algebras. This is equivalent to showing that any real homogeneous quadratic form $B(-,-)$ on $\mathfrak{h}^*$ which vanishes identically on the set of positive roots must vanish identically.
Lemma: if $V$ is a real vector space, with a symmetric bilinear form $B(-,-)$ on $V$, and if $v_1, v_2\in V$ are linearly independent, and suppose further that $B(v_i,v_i) = 0$ for $i=1,2$ and that $B(v_1+cv_2, v_1+cv_2)=0$ for some real nonzero constant $c$, then $B(-,-)$ must vanish identically on the span of $v_1$ and $v_2$.
The proof of the lemma is easy. Indeed it implies in particular that the $v_i$ are null, and that $B(v_1,v_2) = 0$.
We now apply this lemma inductively. We start on one end of the Dynkin diagram, and apply the lemma to $v_1$ being the first simple root, and $v_2$ being the second simple root, which is connected to the first simple root by either a simple, a double or triple edge. Applying reflection to $v_2$ about the hyperplane orthogonal to $v_1$, we get the required third vector of the form either $v_1+cv_2$ or $v_2+cv_1$ for some $c>0$, which is also a positive root. We thus get that $B(-,-)$ vanishes identically on the span of the first 2 simple roots, and then apply the lemma again to the second simple root, and a new simple root connected to the second simple root by a simple, double or triple edge, and so on.
This would show that $B(-,-) = 0$ identically, thus proving the claim.
Hence this would show that the number of positive roots is always greater or equal to the dimension of $\operatorname{Sym}^2(\mathfrak{h})$, answering spin's question at least. The proof is conceptual and does not rely on the classification result. I am not sure if it really answers the OP's original question though.
Edit 1: building up on my previous argument, we would like to show, in order to answer the OP's question, that if the $\varphi_\alpha$'s are linearly independent over $\mathbb{R}$ in $\operatorname{Sym}^2(\mathfrak{h})$, then the root system is of the A type. Thus we have to rule out the existence of multiple edges, and rule out the existence of Dynkin subdiagrams which are isomorphic to that of $SO(8)$ (here, note that I am unfortunately relying on the classification result). So let us assume that the $\varphi_\alpha$ are linearly independent. Then for any positive root $\alpha$, there exists a symmetric bilinear form $B(-,-)$ on $\mathfrak{h}^*$, such that $B(\beta,\beta) = 0$ for any positive root $\beta \neq \alpha$ and $B(\alpha,\alpha) \neq 0$. By restricting to a rank 2 Dynkin subdiagram, corresponding to 2 simple roots connected by a multiple edge, one can remove one positive root spanned by these 2 simple roots, and still get at least 3 positive roots satisfying the lemma above, so that $B$ must vanish identically on the span of these 2 simple roots, thus leading to a contradiction.
It remains to rule out the existence of rank 4 Dynkin subdiagrams isomorphic to that of $SO(8)$ under the linear independence assumption on the $\varphi_\alpha$. This can be done explicitly by removing a specific positive root, and showing that if $B$ vanishes on all other positive roots, then it must be 0 on this rank 4 subspace of $\mathfrak{h}^*$, thus leading to a contradiction too. Alternatively, one can simply count the dimensions in this case: $SO(8)$ has 12 positive roots, while $\operatorname{Sym}^2(\mathfrak{h})$ has dimension 10, thus ruling out the existence of such Dynkin subdiagrams under the linear independence hypothesis on the $\varphi_\alpha$.
Remark: the first part of my post does not rely on the classification result, while edit 1 does unfortunately rely on at least part of the classification result. Edit 1 consists in ruling out multiple edges and Dynkin subdiagrams isomorphic to that of $SO(8)$. I hope that over all, my post answers the OP's question (it could use some editing though).