The type of strategy-stealing in chomp (mentioned by the OP in a comment) is exactly the one which could, in principle, be applied to chess: you don't want to neglect the first move because "it won't hurt", you actually aim at "reabsorbing" it so as to make W play exactly the same winning positions you are assuming B has at his disposal.
But, as it was said in the answer by ckefa, this, even if possible, would be very difficult. However the converse direction seems perhaps more tractable: is it possible to show that, if a winning strategy for B exists, it is not possible to steal it with W in the above-mentioned sense? For instance: if copying W moves as far as possible (e.g. 1. e4 e5 2. Nf3 Nf6 3. Nc3 Nc6 4.Be2 Be7 5. d4 d5 ecc... ) is the beginning of a winning strategy for B, it's plausible that it cannot be stolen by W.
(Of course this is of scarce practical relevance, because it seems so unlikely that B wins...but maybe it could be interesting for more abstract reasons).