If I understand your question, the answer is no.
Catanese produces examples of surfaces with $K_{Y_0}$ big and nef but not ample and such that if $Y_0\to X_0$ is the canonical model, thenYou can consider any surface $X_0$ admits only RDP singularities which dodoes not admit anya global smoothing. Now if Let $Y\to \Delta$ is$Y_0\to X_0$ be the minimal resolution and consider a smooth family $Y\to \Delta$ such that $K_{Y_t}$ is ample for the general $t$, then I guess what you are asking isfiber does not possibleadmit any curve with negative self-intersection.