Concerning the first question, the answer is yes.
Given an abelian variety $A$ over $k$ of genus $g$, we have that the first cohomology of its tangent space is of dimension $g^2$. Moreover, by a theorem of Grothendieck, we know that the deformations of $A$ are unobstructed. This yields that the base ring of the universal deformation is isomorphic to $k[t_1, \dots, t_{g^2}]$.
Using the theory of p-divisbledivisible groups, one can show that in the case where $A$ is ordinary, the formal scheme representing the deformation functor can be equipped with the structure of a formal group scheme. This corresponds to a more canonical choice of parameters compared to the above one. In any case, the dimensions are the same.
In this deformations theoretic argumentsdeformation-theoretic argument, polarizations are not involved. If you add them as additional data to the moduli functor, dimensions can change.