Here is a counterexample of size 3823.
Let $m=8$$m=6$ and let $$P=\{0,a_1,\dots,a_m,1\}\cup\{b_{ij}: 1\le i<j\le m\}$$ where $0<a_i<b_{jk}<1$ whenever $i$ is distinct from $j$ and $k$.
The cardinality of $P$ is $n=1+m+\binom{m}{2}+1=38$$|P|=m+2+\binom{m}{2}=6+2+15=23$.
The join-irreducible elements are only the $a_i$ and $0$, since each $b_{ij}=\bigvee\{a_k:k\ne i, k\ne j\}$.
TheEach $a_i$ each have$|[a_i,1]|=2+\binom{m}{2}-(m-1)>|P|/2$ as long as $$2+\binom{m}2 - (m-1) > \frac12\left(m+2+\binom{m}2\right)$$ $$4+\binom{m}2>3m$$ which is true for $\binom{m}{2}-m=20>19=n/2$ elements above them$m=6$ but not for $m=5$.