Actuallly, I'm not sure that free pearls as defined are in fact projective; for that matter. I'm pretty sure that there are no projectives at all. I do have some observations ona characterization of epimorphisms, then a specific example of pearls firsta free pearl that is not projective, and finally an argument that no pearl is projective.
Proof. Let $f\colon (G,S)\to (H,T)$ be a pearl homomorphism such that $f\colon G\to H$ is onto. Let $(K,U)$ be a pearl, and let $g,h\colon (H,T)\to (K,U)$ be pearl homomorphisms such that $g\circ f = h\circ f$. If $x\in H$, then there exists $a\in G$ such that $f(a)=x$. Therefore, $g(x) = g(f(a)) = h(f(a)) = h(x)$. So $g=h$ as morphisms $H\to K$, hence $g=h$ as morphisms of pearls. Thus, $f$ is an epimorphism.
Conversely, suppose that $f\colon (G,S)\to(H,T)$ is a homomorphism and $f\colon G\to H$ is not onto. In the abelian case, we can construct the amalgamated direct product $K= H\times H/\{ (a,-a)\mid a\in f(G)\}$, and in the general case we can construct the amalgamated coproduct $K=H\amalg_{f(G)} H$; both these groups have embeddings $\lambda,\rho\colon H\to K$ into the "left" and "right" cofactors, such that the equalizer of $\lambda$ and $\rho$ is $f(G)$; (in fact, $\lambda(H)\cap\rho(H) = f(G)$). In particular, $\lambda\circ f = \rho\circ f$, but since $f(G)\neq H$, $\lambda\neq\rho$.
Moreover, since $\lambda$ and $\rho$ are embeddings, $\lambda(T)$ and $\rho(T)$ cannot contain the identity of $K$. Thus, $(K,\lambda(T)\cup \rho(T))$ is a pearl, and we have two induced maps $\lambda,\rho\colon (H,T)\to (K,\lambda(T)\cup \rho(T))$. These maps satisfy $\lambda\circ f = \rho \circ f$ but $\lambda\neq \rho$. Therfore, $f$ is not an epimorphism of pearls. This shows that homomorphisms of pearls (resp. abelian pearls) are epimorphisms (in the respective category) if and only if the underlying group homomorphism is surjective.
On the other hand, an epimorphism $f\colon (G,S)\to (H,T)$ need not induce a surjective map $f|_S\colon S\to T$. Indeed, let $G$ be any group with more than two elements, and let $S$ and $T$ be subsets of $G-\{e\}$ such that $S\subseteq T$ but $S\neq T$ (that's where we need $|G|>2$). Then $i\colon (G,S)\to (G,T)$ induced by the identity map is an epimorphism, since the identity map is onto, but the induced map $S\hookrightarrow T$ is not surjective. Same argument holds in the category of abelian pearls $\Box$
Now, a pearl $(P,S)$ is projective if and only if for every pearl homomorphism $h\colon (P,S)\to (H,U)$, and every pearl epimorphism $f\colon (G,T)\to (H,U)$, there exists a pearl homomorphism $g\colon (P,S)\to(G,T)$ such that $f\circ g = h$. I claim that there are free pearls that are not projective, in both the general and abelian case.
Proof. I will use $\mathbb{Z}^2$ for the abelianization of $F_2$, and identify $x$ and $y$ with their images in the abelianization.
That $(F_2,\{x\})$ is a free pearl and $(\mathbb{Z}^2,\{x\})$ is an abelian-free pearl follows from the definition: the underlying group is free (resp. free abelian), and the underlying subset is a subset of a free generating set.
By way of contradiction, assume that $(F_2,\{x\})$ is projective.
Consider the pearl homomorphism $i\colon (F_2,\{x\}) \to (F_2,\{x,y\})$ induced by the identity map of $F_2$. Now let $f\colon (F_2,\{y\})\to (F_2,\{x,y\})$ be the pearl epimorphism induced by the identity map $F_2\to F_2$. Then there must exist a pearl homomorphism $g\colon (F_2,\{x\})\to (F_2,\{y\})$ such that $f\circ g = i$. Since the underlying group homomorphisms of $f$ and $i$ are the identity, it follows that the underlying group homomorphism of $g$ is the identity. But since $g$ is a pearl homomorphism, we must have $g(x) \in \{y\})$, which is impossible. Thus, $(F_2,\{x\})$ is not projective in the category of pearls.
By taking the abelianizations, we likewise show that $(\mathbb{Z}^2,\{x\})$ is not projective in the category of abelian pearls. $\Box$
In fact, I don't think there are any projectives in these categories. Let $(G,S)$ be any pearl. Now let $H=G\times \langle x\rangle$, with $x$ a nontrivial element of whatever order you want, the group written multiplicatively. Let $T=\{(s,1)\in H\mid s\in S\}\cup \{(e_G,x)\}$. Then $(H,T)$ is a pearl. Let $h\colon (G,S)\to (H,T)$ be the map induced by the embedding $G\hookrightarrow H$. Now let $(K,U)$ be the pearl with $K=H$ and $U=\{(e_G,x)\}$, and $f\colon (K,U)\to (H,T)$ be the homomorphism induced by the identity $K\to H$. This is an epimorphism. If $g\colon G\to K$ is such that $f\circ g = h$, then we must have $g=h$; but then $f(S)$ is not contained in $U$, so $g$ cannot induce a pearl homomorphism. Thus, $(G,S)$ cannot be a projective object. If $G$ is abelian, the example is a diagram of abelian pearls, and so $(G,S)$ is also not projective in the category of abelian pearls.