That said, if we drop choice, then such filters can be ultrafilters! Let $V$ be a model of $ZF+V=L(\mathbb{R})$ + "The theory of $L(\mathbb{R})$ is absolute" - formally, this last condition is a scheme asserting that for every sentence $\varphi$ in the language of set theory with real parameters and every set forcing $\mathbb{P}$, $V\models\varphi\iff L(\mathbb{R})^{V[G]}\models\varphi$. (Informally, this should suggest that $V$ is the $L(\mathbb{R})$ of some choice model with a proper class of Woodins.)
Now consider the "labelled Levy collapse" $\mathbb{Q}=Col_{\mathbb{R}}(\omega,\omega_1)$ - a condition in this forcing is a finite sequence of reals coding well-orderings, and conditions are ordered by extension. Like the Levy collapse, this forcing makes $\omega_1$ countable, but - importantly - does so by adding a single real, $G$; in particular, the generic extension $V[G]$ satisfies "$V=L(\mathbb{R})$."
That said, if we drop choice, then such filters can be ultrafilters! Let $V$ be a model of $ZF+V=L(\mathbb{R})$ + "The theory of $L(\mathbb{R})$ is absolute" - formally, this last condition is a scheme asserting that for every sentence $\varphi$ in the language of set theory with real parameters and every set forcing $\mathbb{P}$, $V\models\varphi\iff L(\mathbb{R})^{V[G]}\models\varphi$. (Informally, this should suggest that $V$ is the $L(\mathbb{R})$ of some choice model with a proper class of Woodins.)
Now consider the "labelled Levy collapse" $\mathbb{Q}=Col_{\mathbb{R}}(\omega,\omega_1)$ - a condition in this forcing is a finite sequence of reals coding well-orderings, and conditions are ordered by extension. Like the Levy collapse, this forcing makes $\omega_1$ countable, but - importantly - does so by adding a single real, $G$; in particular, the generic extension $V[G]$ satisfies "$V=L(\mathbb{R})$."
This gives us lots of absoluteness between $V$ and $V[G]$. In particular, the sentence "The club filter on $\omega_1$ is an ultrafilter" is true in $V$, and hence in $V[G]$; and in particular, this means that in $V$ the filter $\mathcal{F}_{Col_\mathbb{R}(\omega, \omega_1)}$ is an ultrafilter on $\omega_2^V$. Indeed, this filter witnesses that $\omega_2^V$ is measurable in $V$.
This gives us lots of absoluteness between $V$ and $V[G]$. In particular, the sentence "The club filter on $\omega_1$ is an ultrafilter" is true in $V$, and hence in $V[G]$; and in particular, this means that in $V$ the filter $\mathcal{F}_{Col_\mathbb{R}(\omega, \omega_1)}$ is an ultrafilter on $\omega_2^V$. Indeed, this filter witnesses that $\omega_2^V$ is measurable in $V$.EDIT: The above argument relies on the assumption that $\omega_1$ in the new $L(\mathbb{R})$ is the old $L(\mathbb{R})$'s $\omega_2$; this seemed obvious to me at first, but now that I think about it (prompted by Asaf's answer below) I see it is wildly unjustified.
EDIT: The first three questions were answered by Monroe Eskew below; the fourth, however, seems like a fundamentally different question. I've accepted Monroe's answer, and have asked the fourth question separately herehere.