Since $\Sigma F$ is a suspension, its Hopf invariant $\lambda(\Sigma F)$ is trivial. So, if we take the Hopf invariant of the composite
$$
\Sigma F = (f,g,h_F) \circ (p_1 + p_2 + p_{12})
$$
and use the composition formula and the Cartan formula (in Boardman and Steer), we obtain, after some rewriting, the formula
$$
\lambda(h_F) = (f \wedge g) \circ \Sigma p_{12}
$$$$
\lambda(h_F) = (f \wedge g) \circ \Sigma p_{12} \qquad (*)
$$
Implicit in this calculation, which I've omitted, is the fact that the reduced diagonal maps of both $B$ and $X$ are trivial since these spaces are suspensions. I refer the reader to Boardman and Steer's paper for the details.
Returning to our original notation, note that the map $f$ is the suspension of composition
$$
\begin{CD}
B @>>> G_{n+1} @>\pi >> S^n
\end{CD}
$$$$
\begin{CD}
B @>>> G_{n+1} @>\pi >> S^n \, ,
\end{CD}
$$
and the map $g$ is the identity map of $S^{n+1}$.
The map $\lambda(h_F)$ is adjoint to the composite
$$
\begin{CD}
B\to G_{n+1} \to F_{n+1} @>\lambda >> \Omega^{n+2} S^{2n+2}\, ,
\end{CD}
$$$$
\begin{CD}
B\to G_{n+1} \to F_{n+1} @>\lambda >> \Omega^{n+2} S^{2n+2}\,
\end{CD}
$$
whereaswhich is one of the composites of the reformulated claim.
The map $(f \wedge g) \circ \Sigma p_{12}$ is the composite
$$
\begin{CD}
\Sigma^2 (B \times S^n) @>>> \Sigma^2 (G_{n+1} \times S^n) @>q >> \Sigma^2 G_{n+1} \wedge S^n @>\Sigma \pi \wedge 1 >>
\Sigma S^n \wedge \Sigma S^n
\end{CD}
$$
where $q$ is the quotient map. By definition, the last composition is adjoint to the composition
$$
\begin{CD}
B @>>> G_{n+1} @> \pi >> S^n @> E >> \Omega^{n+2} S^{2n+2}
\end{CD}
$$
andwhich is the other composite of the reformulated claim is proved!.
Thus the claim follows from equation $(\ast)$.
Comments: (1). The above argument shows that the diagram of Greg's question (1) commutes after looping. The equation we derived
$$
\lambda(h_F) = (f \wedge g) \circ \Sigma p_{12}
$$
isn't$(\ast)$ isn't generally valid when $B$ (or $X$) isn't a suspension.
For general $B$, there is a correction term in the formula involving the reduced diagonal $B\to B \wedge B$. This gives evidence that Greg's diagram will fail to commute before taking loops.