This is now proven both as Theorem 1.7 in my paper "Knot invariants and higher representation theory IKnot invariants and higher representation theory I" and by Kang and Kashiwara in "Categorification of Highest Weight Modules via Khovanov-Lauda-Rouquier AlgebrasCategorification of Highest Weight Modules via Khovanov-Lauda-Rouquier Algebras."