This might be addressed in Lang's book "Topics in Galois cohomology" near the end (where he does discuss Tate's theorem on abelian varieties that you mention). But here Note first of all that the "norm" map you speak of does not make sense unless the field extension is separable. That is, for a proof whenseparable field extension $L/K$$k'/k$ of finite degree and a commutative $k$-group scheme $C$ there is separablea canonical "norm" homomorphism (which you might regard$C(k') \rightarrow C(k)$ induced by the passage to Galois-invariants on the homomorphism $C(k' \otimes_k k_s) \rightarrow C(k_s)$ arising from the canonical $k_s$-algebra decomposition of $k' \otimes_k k_s$ as a sketchproduct of copies of $k_s$ indexed by ${\rm{Hom}}_k(k',k_s)$. The same method defines a "norm" homomorphism $C(k' \otimes_k S) \rightarrow C(S)$ for any $k$-algebra $S$, but does give allso it corresponds to a natural $k$-homomorphism ${\rm{R}}_{k'/k}(C_{k'}) \rightarrow C$ in terms of the main ideasWeil restriction when $C$ is finite type. This generalizes to when $k'/k$ is replaced with a finite etale cover. But beyond the separable setting there is no "reasonable" norm through finite flat maps whose formation commutes with base change.) So for this reason, we are going to assume that $L/K$ is separable.
First, by the relationship between cup products and connecting homomorphisms (and the identification of $A^t(K)$ with ${\rm{Ext}}^1_K(A, \mathbf{G}_m)$ functorially in $A$) we see that the pairing $$A^t(K) \times {\rm{H}}^1(K,A) \rightarrow {\rm{H}}^2(K, \mathbf{G}_m) = \mathbf{Q}/\mathbf{Z}$$
identifies covariant functoriality in degree-1 cohomology as adjoint to dual-functoriality of abelian varieties.
Let $B$ denote the Weil restriction of scalars ${\rm{R}}_{L/K}(A_L)$; this is an abelian variety precisely because $L/K$ is separable. (If $L/K$ is not separable then $B$ is a smooth connected commutative $K$-group of dimension $[L:K]\dim(A)$ but is always non-proper if $A \ne 0$.) Let $j:A \rightarrow B$ be the natural inclusion. Ultimately we are going to transform your question into the above functoriality of the Tate pairing over $K$ applied to the $K$-homomorphism $j$.
By Shapiro's Lemma considerations, we naturally identify ${\rm{H}}^i(L,A)$ with ${\rm{H}}^i(K,B)$, and (check!) this identifies the restriction map on ${\rm{H}}^1$'s with ${\rm{H}}^1(j)$. Likewise, by the compatibility of Weil restriction with the formation of dual abelian variety (using the "norm" of the Weil restriction of the Poincare bundle), the norm map $A^t(L)\rightarrow A^t(K)$ is identified with the map on $K$-points induced by the dual homomorphism $j^t:B^t \rightarrow A^t$. Also, and most crucially, by a bit of diagram chasing (using the role of "norm of Poincare bundle" above) we see that the Tate pairing for $B$ over $K$ is identified with the composition of the Tate pairing for $A_L$ over $L$ and the "norm" map on Brauer groups $${\rm{Br}}(L) = {\rm{H}}^2(L, \mathbf{G}_m) =
{\rm{H}}^2(K, {\rm{R}}_{L/K}(\mathbf{G}_m))\rightarrow {\rm{H}}^2(K,\mathbf{G}_m)={\rm{Br}}(K).$$
But when these flanking Brauer groups are identified with $\mathbf{Q}/\mathbf{Z}$, this composite map is the identity, as we see by analyzing pre-composition with the surjective restriction ${\rm{Br}}(K) \rightarrow {\rm{Br}}(L)$ (that intertwines with $[L:K]$ on $\mathbf{Q}/\mathbf{Z}$ via local class field theory, and the composition of $\mathbf{G}_m \rightarrow {\rm{R}}_{L/K}(\mathbf{G}_m)$ with the "norm" map ${\rm{R}}_{L/K}(\mathbf{G}_m) \rightarrow \mathbf{G}_m$ is $t \mapsto t^{[L:K]}$).
So putting it all together, the diagram you want to commute for $L/K$ separable really does translate into the elementary functoriality of the Tate pairing over $K$, applied to the map $j$ between abelian varieties over $K$.