[NOTE: The answer below is not correct as it stands because it
does not account for the conditioncorrected $r>s$. Still I do not delete it
(not even$-$ see edit history for a Disciplined badge...), because the basic idea
should still work: eventually there must be factors $f^2,g^2$ of
$2r^2 \pm 2r + 1$ that let us multiply $r+s$ by $f/g$ to obtain
an integer less than $2r$ but still with $s/r$ arbitrarily close to $1$.previous attempt]
The conjecture failsis false: there are infinitely oftenmany "Pell" parametrizations, and the ratio
some with larger values of $s/r$ can get. For example,
arbitrarily large$$
(r,s) = (307470495089672071303, \, 295528756570432706202)
$$
has $s/r \sim .961$. The easiest way to find examples is to use
This was obtained as follows. Recall that $4r^4 + 1$ factors as
the same Pell family, for which one of$(2r^2-2r+1) (2r^2+2r+1)$. Start from the factors $2r^2 \pm 2r + 1$first solution
of $4r^4+1$ is a square$(r,s) = (3,2)$, with $2r^2-2r+1 = 13$ and find a case where the other factor
is not squarefree$2r^2+2r+1 = 5^2$. Factors
Instead of generalizing to $5^2$ occur often, for example when
$r = 6238626641379$$2r^2+2r+1 = y^2$, when in additionwe generalize to the expected $s=2584123765442$
one can take$2r^2-2r+1 = 13y^2$ and $s = 37875125392726 > 6r$;$2r^2+2r+1 \equiv 0 \bmod 25$.
going somewhat furtherThis is a Fermat-Pell equation with a congruence condition,
$$
r = 577603898440357173330156303836731679
$$
has an extra square factor ofand since we have one solution $(5 \cdot 113)^2$,
so$(r,y) = (3,2)$ there are three larger values of $s$ such asmust be
$$
460945621874027221114810336774658637686 > 798r.
$$infinitely many others. The equation is $x^2-26y^1=1$ with $x=2r-1$,
Therewhich must also be further examples such aspositive and $r=2679$ where$1 \bmod 4$ to satisfy the sign and
neither ofparity conditions on $2r^2 \pm 2r + 1$ is a square but one of them$n$. The general solution is
$x + \sqrt{26} \, y = (5 + \sqrt{26})^{4k+1}$ (for example$k=0,1,2,\ldots$) $5$ times a square and,
and then the other has a nontrivial square factor${}\bmod 25$ condition gives $5|k$. The solution
displayed above comes from $k=5$.
[Added later] For example $(r,s) = (121644898, 878509959)$ would workWe can obtain further infinite families by iterating
with $s>7r$ (thanks to a factortrick of $13^2$ inswitching between the $2r^2-2r+1$) except that and $2r^2+2r+1$ factors,
it does not satisfyand by starting from some other solution such as the parity condition $(r,s) \equiv (1,0) \bmod 2$$r=2679$ "outlier"
or any other solution that a numerical search might find.