One good way to understand Arrow's paradox (not sure if the 'everyday life' condition applies here!) is via homology. See for example

Baryshnikov: Unifying Impossibility Theorems: A Topological Approach.

Basically, voter's preferences, as well as the aggregate preference, are represented as points in a topological space. The choice rule is a map between these spaces. The conditions of Arrow's theorem force the induced map on homology to be that of a dictator.