More generally, there has to be a way to measure the relative size of two sets, in order to determine the center of mass of the union of the two sets. If I understand correctly, axiom (4) in the question is an attempt to set this up.
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But isn'tfor me it seems simpler to define a notion of volumesize first and define the center of mass?
Valuations play a fundamental role. And, as alvarezpaiva points out in affine convex geometry (seea comment to Liviu's answer, for examplevaluations provide the appropriate setting, especially if we restrict to convex polytopes, which are objects that I believe the workGreeks understood pretty well. This also allows us to avoid any issues of Monika Ludwig)having to work with infinite sums or unions.
Here, a valuation $f$ is essentially just a finitely additive measurefunction on the space of convex polytopes. It seemsIn other words, given polytopes $A$ and $B$, $$f(A \cup B) + f(A \cap B) = f(A) + f(B).$$ The first observation is that the "critical axiom" stated above is equivalent to mesaying that given any$C \mapsto m(C)c(C)$ is a valuation or measure. However, Monika Ludwig showed in her paper $m$Moment vectors of polytopes that the only $R^n$-valued measurable valuation on convex polytopes that behaves appropriately under affine transformations is the ambient space can be used to define a corresponding notionvolume of the polytope times the standard center of mass $c$ as I've described above.
THE FOLLOWING TWO PARAGRAPHS ARE WRONG: But this leads to an observationLudwig also showed in her Advances article Valuations on polytopes containing the origin in their interiors that maybe is what fedjaany real-valued measurable $SL(n)$-invariant valuation homogeneous of positive degree must be a constant times volume. So it is trying to tell us: It appearsreasonable to me that if the ambient space is flat affine andassume $m$ is assumed to have reasonable properties, including an analogue of axiom (3) (such asvolume. This therefore implies that $m(TE) = (\det T)^pm(E)$), then you always get$c$ must be the samestandard center of mass, no matter what $m$ is.
So there should be a way to defineMoreover, if you examine Ludwig's proofs, you will see that although they are quite nontrivial, the centertechnology used was arguably within the grasp of mass for sets in a flat affine space without using any valuation or measure at allthe Greeks.