To me the most impressive work in the field of "jamming" physics is a web of not quite yet mathematically formulated conjectures discovered by extensive simulations on packings of soft spheres in a periodic box without gravity. This is the study of point J.
Here's an image of point J on the "jamming phase diagram" proposed by Andrea Liu and Sid Nagel, where the axes are different parameters one might tune in disordered packings:
One considers "soft spheres" of radius $r$ interacting with a potential energy which is zero until they overlap (that is, the center-to-center distance is $2r$), after which, the energy increases with some low power of the separation, typically 2 (harmonic), 5/2 ("Hertzian") or some others. In 2D simulations in this field have mainly considered 1:1 mixtures of balls with radii in a ratio of 1.4:1 in order to prevent crystallization. The choice of these ratios is a historical convention, as far as I can tell. In 3D, balls tend not to crystallize as easily, so monodisperse ensembles of balls can be used.
Now the idea is to place $N$ such balls in a box with periodic boundary conditions and grow the balls slowly while minimizing the potential energy function by a conjugate gradient method. When the packing fraction $\phi$ is low, the balls will be able to space themselves out so that no balls overlap. When the packing fraction $\phi$ passes a critical $\phi_c$, the minimum energy state now has nonzero overlap, and the ball packing gains some solid-like properties, such as a shear modulus and bulk modulus (resistance to shear and compression, respectively). The system is then said to be jammed.
The 2003 paper of O'Hern, Silbert, Liu and Nagel did extensive simulations in 2 and 3 dimensions of the above and found the following facts related to your query:
First, the packing fraction $\phi_c$ is configuration dependent for finite systems (that is for a given $N$, there is really a range of $\phi_c$ at which the system jams), but as $N$ increases, this range narrows, and it's natural to conjecture that in "the thermodynamic limit", there is a well-defined packing fraction at which such soft spheres jam, called point J. For 2D bidisperse disks, it is around 0.84, for 3D balls, it is around 0.64.
The above graph from their paper shows the width of the distribution of jamming thresholds as $N$ increases. Physicists love power laws because they lead to scaling exponents, which is why both this graph and the next are log-log plots.
Second, the average contact number (usually called $Z$) near point J has very interesting behavior (here contacts are defined to exist between any pair of particles which have nonzero overlap). Below jamming, obviously it is zero since the balls don't overlap. But once you reach $\phi_c$, the contact number jumps to $Z_c=$twice the dimension. This is why point J is often called an isostatic point.
Isostaticity refers to the emergence of mechanical rigidity: a naïve balancing of constraints (one per contact between particles, or $NZ/2$) and degrees of freedom ($dN$) for a set of $d$-dimensional balls leads to $Z=2d$. If one increases $\phi$ a little bit about $\phi_c$, one finds empirically that the contact number increases linearly with as the square root of $\phi-\phi_c$, independent of the potential and dimension. I don't know if this has been extensively tested in higher dimensions, but it's guessed that this is a generic feature of the jamming of soft spheres. Observe that $Z_c$ is much much lower than the kissing number, which I believe is expected to scale exponentially?
This plot shows how $Z-Z_c$ changes as a function of $\phi-\phi_c$.
They found many other exponents and evidence for some critical phenomena-like behavior in this paper which I'm afraid I won't be able to explain here. Suffice it to say that this paper has inspired quite a bit of work in the soft condensed matter community. The conjectures I hinted at above are basically to try to make rigorous any of the empirical observations found in this paper or in this field of inquiry, more broadly.
In the last few years a few overviews for physicists have come out, which might also be interesting reading for broad-minded mathematicians. I like this one by Martin van Hecke because it has a lot of colorful pictures, though there's also one by Liu et al. These articles might also shed some light on how one might think about your system with hard balls, walls and gravity.