I'll expand slightly on Dan's suggestion.
Any such pair of sequences $(\{a_{i}\}, \{b_{j}\})$ can be obtained from the pair of sequences $(\{i\}, \{n+j\})$ {2n+1-j\})$ by finitely many iterations of the following operation.
For some $i$ and some $j$ with $a_{i} = k, b_{j} = k+1$, set $a_{i} = k+1, b_{j} = k$.
Now just check that the claim holds for the pair of sequences $(\{i\}, \{n+j\})$, {2n+1-j\})$, and that the operation I described leaves the sum invariant.

