EDIT: More briefly than before . Here is a "physics" "proof": Far naive physical argument which might meet the request of a point of view from any gravitational forces, which the napkin ring sits captured result would immediately appear to be just what one would expect before going through the argument.
R>r.). Since this cylinderVariation: Start with a volume of $4/3 \pi r^3$ of fluid in a membraneNow start shrinking q. It We will naturally take still have a spherical shapenapkin ring. Imagine a long cylinder of glass (inner radius 0) passing along the axis Keep going until q=0 and glass plates tangent at the poles. Now let the radius of we see that the centeral cylinder grow. The water always thinks it is part of some bigger volume was that of water and keeps a spherical shape sphere of radius r.
(since the glass presses back on the water with the force that read the water presses on it).previous version if you wish, it might not be worth it)

