This question was debated in another forum a few years ago. The result was a note by Frédéric Campana in which he describes a counterexample as a corollary of another construction. In 1986 Gang Xiao found two simply connected complex surfaces $S$ and $S'$ (that is, complex dimension 2), with different Hodge numbers, that are *homeomorphic* by Freedman's classification. The homeomorphism has to be orientation-reversing, but $S \times S$ and $S' \times S'$ are orientedly diffeomorphic and of course still have different Hodge numbers. Freedman's difficult classification is not essential to the argument, because in 8 real dimensions you can use standard surgery theory to establish the diffeomorphism.

Campana also explains that Borel and Hirzebruch found the first counterexample in 1959, in 5 complex dimensions.